Sunday, June 7, 2015

Dear Natural Hair,





I'm breaking up with you... maybe.
Quite frankly I've bin over my natural hair for a while now. The twist out, braid out and that dreaded bantu have become daunting taskS for me.

During my loose natural hair journey, ( was never a journey per say but whatever...) I have to say my hair was the healthiest in 2013.


 Boy oh boy was I obsessed with my hair back then, but it was a lot of work. The constant deep conditioning, moisturizing and re-twisting. Wow, I had patience! I can't see myself going back to that right now. Kudos to the new moms with fly twist-outs.


Two big chops and heat damage later, I'm here at "ugh". So whats next? Back to locs? Another big chop? Perm maybe?? I have nothing against perm. I got caught up in the natural hair movement since my locs were a big hit among the YouTube community. But it was not my identity. I was just a woman with her hair loc'd at that point in her life. I feel like just a few understood that.


 I'm not sure what is next for me and this hair. We just have to wait and see.
Bye bye natural hair community???

Blessings
J

Wednesday, June 3, 2015

Events~ Brooklyn Public Library

Tons of great family events here at
 The Brooklyn Public Library

Get into it with your little ones

IG: trinibkbabj

I'm also looking into joining a mommy group to expose Anna 
to babies around her age on a regular basis.

Any mommy-baby blogs you would like to
recommend?

Blessings
J

Friday, May 29, 2015

My Experience| Coping with a Coliky baby~ Single Mom

As a new mom, I was looking forward to my new bundle of joy. I was ready to hug, kiss, play with my baby and be happy...Then reality hit. "Why is my baby always cranky"?... "Why is she so upset"?..."Why is she not sleeping"?  "Why is she always crying"? The questions were endless. I kept hearing the word COLIC (<link) thrown here and there when I mentioned my situation to friends so I decided to do my research. I was surprised with what I found. I knew nothing about colic before that day.

The Beginning

My mom was working pretty much 24/7 and my child's father worked as well. The little that he was around did not seem to help. I complained/ vent to family and friends, but they did not have the answers. All I heard was "she will grow out of it"... They tried.  I read articles online about families going through the same thing. Though it eased my mind a little to know I was not alone, it didn't really help. 

The Middle

My baby was unhappy... I was unhappy. The only thing I could do was pray. I pray to God like he is my best friend. I just talk to him like he's sitting across the room. You don't have to be a professional prayer master to have a relationship with Him. *sigh* I would get angry at my baby and angry at myself for getting angry. I would leave her screaming to the top of her lungs in her bassinet and go to the other room and scream to the top of mines. It helped me from doing things I would regret. I also had to remember that she was a new born and she did not ask for this. So whenever I got upset with her, I would call on His name and ask for help and patience.



You may find this very cold...but I had a hard time loving my child at the very beginning. I know... It seemed like nothing I did helped. I was trying so hard and she was still unhappy. At one point I almost gave up. I had to remember that she was counting on me and depending on ME to take care of her. How selfish was I?

The End
It did get better over time... over a very long time it seemed. She started to be more aware, looking at me lovingly. It was around the time I started to breast feed exclusively. Then there was a smile and a glitter in here eyes.

My experience with my colicky baby was rough. It was one of the most difficult times in my life. I am so grateful that I have a relationship with God. I am so thankful I have a mother that was there for me. She picked up every call and answered every text when I needed to talk. And I know she prayed very hard on our behalf. Thank you mom. To my friends that offered advice, I thank you too.

ADVICE
My advice to anyone going through this, be patient... PRAY about it. Try not to complain too much because it makes matters worse. Do not cry and get angry in front of your child, make sure he/she is safe and go to another room  for a couple of minutes. Ask for help. Do not wait for people to come to you. Picture you baby laughing and smiling. Do not shake or hit your baby, remember they are counting on you to protect and love them. 

God is so good!!

Blessings
J

Thursday, May 28, 2015

Baby OOTD - Fabulous

Not using A's 0-3 months clothing earlier was a mistake. By the time i turned around she had outgrew some of them and was not able to wear them.

This time around I'm making sure every so often to fit her  6 months clothing, especially the warmer ones. She will not be able to wear them in the summer time. If they still fit come September, cool.

(she was not cooperating for the pics & drooled on her sweater)

cardigan| Circo 3 months   Top| Carter's 6 months
 Pants| Carter's 6months    Shoe (gift)

Blessings
J

Mummy and Me OOTD - Pink, Blue and White

I love mommy- baby matching outfits. I usually match with colors rather than style itself.

Here is a simple example. We just lounged around the neighborhood that day :)






I did a quick video too

Blessings
J

Tuesday, May 26, 2015

Baby Changes~The 4-5 month old baby

5.20.15
I was wondering why Anna's sleep and eat cycle changed after doing so well. She is no longer sleeping her 4 hr stretches at night and that 4-5 oz of formula she used to guzzle down every 1.5-2hrs is now 1 oz here and there.

Online I discovered this article, and to be honest it made me feel much better. Knowing that I'm not alone has definitely calmed my nerves.
I'm sure she is teething because she is always chomping on her fingers and anything she could find. (She doesn't care for teething rings and the paccy) Also, as the article says, she is going through a
lot right now, a serious development stage. Poor thing. Babies go through so much. After the teething phase (or during) there would be another growth spurt

Staying strong and loving to my baby while she's going through yet another milestone in her little life


5.26.15 UPDATE: She is almost back to her usual self and routine :)
(She'll be 5 months tomorrow)

Blessings
J

Monday, May 25, 2015

Happy Memorial Day!

Hope you all having a great weekend. The weather is beautiful here in NY.

Mommy got her groove back! lol I went to a boat ride yesterday Had a blast. My first real outing since giving birth.


Enjoy the Holiday
Blessings
J